In NVC, distinguishing real feelings from disguised accusations is essential. Test your skills with this interactive exercise.
If "I feel X by you" implies an action by the other, it's a pseudo-feeling.
A real feeling doesn't accuse anyone - it describes your internal state.
Behind every pseudo-feeling hides a real feeling + an unmet need.
"I feel abandoned" → "I feel sad and need connection."
Master the complete OSBD process step by step
You will see 12 statements. For each one, decide if it expresses a real feeling (pure emotional state) or a pseudo-feeling (disguised accusation).
Real Feeling
Pure emotional state, no accusation
Pseudo-feeling
Implies the other's action (disguised accusation)