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Need or Strategy?
Distinguish universal needs from specific means to satisfy them.
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Universal Needs Reference
Discover the universal human needs at the heart of Nonviolent Communication
According to Marshall Rosenberg, all humans share the same fundamental needs. Understanding these 89 universal needs helps us connect with what truly matters to us and others.
Need of the Day
Water
Staying adequately hydrated
Take a moment to reflect on this universal need
89 needs found
Acceptance
Being welcomed as we are, without judgment
Affection
Giving and receiving tenderness, love
Appreciation
Having our contribution valued and recognized
Belonging
Being part of a group, being included and taken into account in activities
Closeness
Sharing emotional intimacy with someone
Companionship
Having someone to share moments with
Empathy
Being understood in what we experience emotionally
Intimacy
Sharing moments of deep connection
Love
Loving and being loved unconditionally
Mutuality
Giving and receiving in a balanced way
Consideration
Having our needs taken into account and being treated with dignity
Support
Being able to count on someone when needed
Trust
Being able to rely on someone's word and actions
Understanding
Being understood in thoughts and motivations
Warmth
Feeling warmth and kindness in relationships
Tenderness
Giving and receiving gentleness in interactions
Benevolence
Being surrounded by people who wish us well
Needs vs Strategies
A crucial distinction in NVC: needs are universal, strategies are specific ways to meet them. Multiple strategies can satisfy the same need.
Strategy (specific)
I want you to call me every day
Need (universal)
I need connection and to know that I matter to you
The daily call is ONE possible strategy. The need can be met in many other ways.
Strategy (specific)
I want this manager position
Need (universal)
I need recognition and contribution
The position is a strategy. The needs could also be met differently.
Strategy (specific)
I want you to clean your room
Need (universal)
I need order and harmony in our shared space
Cleaning is a strategy. Other solutions could meet the need.
Strategy (specific)
I want a vacation by the sea
Need (universal)
I need rest, beauty, and rejuvenation
The sea is a strategy. Other environments could also nurture these needs.
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How to Use This Reference
- 1When you feel a strong emotion, ask yourself: "What need of mine is or isn't being met?"
- 2When in conflict, try to identify the needs behind each person's position
- 3A need is never "wrong" - it's the strategy that may need adjustment
- 4Several strategies can meet the same need - stay open to creative solutions
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